For most real estate flippers, the question of how to fund their deals can matter just as much as the deal itself.

You can have a great flip on your hands, but without the right financing, it either falls apart or bleeds too much profit to be worth the work.

Two of the most common financing sources for flippers are hard money lenders and private money lenders. While both provide non-traditional, short-term funding, they operate very differently, and choosing the wrong one for your situation can create more risk than reward.

Let’s walk through the full comparison of hard money vs. private money for house flippers:

• What each one is

• Where they differ in speed, cost, terms, and flexibility

• The hidden risks with each

• When to use one over the other

• And how to position yourself to access both

What Is Hard Money?

Hard money is short-term lending from an institution or fund that specializes in asset-based loans, typically backed by real estate.

These lenders care more about the property than the borrower, and loans are underwritten based on the value of the asset (usually using ARV, after repair value) rather than your income, credit, or long history.

They offer:

• Fast approvals (often 24–72 hours)

• High interest rates (9–14% is common)

• Short-term durations (6–12 months)

• High closing fees (points and junk fees)

• Lower flexibility on late payments or terms

In short, hard money lenders are professional, reliable, but expensive.

What Is Private Money?

Private money is capital loaned by individuals (not institutions), typically from friends, family, other investors, or professionals looking for yield on their capital.

Private lenders can offer:

• Better rates (sometimes 6–10% or even lower)

• More flexible terms (longer payback windows, interest-only, balloon payments, etc.)

• Relationship-driven terms

• Less bureaucracy

However, they can also be:

• Unreliable (ghosting mid-deal)

• Emotional (more easily spooked)

• Inexperienced with real estate

• Unclear about legal protections or contracts

Private money is all about trust and negotiation, while hard money is all about standardized processes and risk mitigation.

Cost Comparison: Who’s Cheaper?

This is where things get interesting.

On paper, private money often appears cheaper. You might negotiate 8% interest, no points, and even flexible payback terms.

But in practice, the total cost depends on:

• How long do you hold the money

• How risky does the deal feel to the lender

• Whether delays cost you more in carrying or partnership splits

• If you need to give up equity or profits to secure the money

Hard money is expensive upfront (points, junk fees, appraisals), but at least you know the cost. Private money can start cheap but end up costing more if you're giving away equity or waiting for someone to "decide" at the last minute.

Speed of Funding: Who’s Faster?

In theory, hard money is faster. They’re set up to fund deals quickly. Once your lender has your documents, they can often close within 3–10 days, depending on title and appraisal.

But once you're an experienced flipper with relationships, private lenders can be even faster, especially repeat lenders.

A trusted private lender who’s already invested with you can say “yes” over text and wire money the same day.

Here’s the trade-off:

• First-time: Hard money is often faster

• Long-term: Private money relationships can become instant

Paperwork and Underwriting

Hard money lenders need:

• Purchase contract

• Rehab budget

• Scope of work

• Contractor bids

• Appraisal

• Title insurance

• Entity docs

• Personal guarantee

• Bank statements

• Exit strategy

Private lenders might need:

• A quick call

• A one-page summary

• A personal guarantee or simple promissory note

• Sometimes nothing

Hard money is built on systems. Private money is built on trust.

Flexibility When Things Go Wrong

What happens if:

• Your flip takes longer than expected?

• Your buyer backs out?

• You need another 30 days to close?

With hard money, you're likely facing:

• Extension fees

• Late fees

• Forced foreclosure if you go too long

• Zero emotion or flexibility

With private money, you may be able to:

• Call your lender and explain

• Extend with no penalty

• Adjust the deal structure mid-flight

But that flexibility comes at a cost: you're depending on a human being’s mood, availability, and trust in you.

Control, Oversight, and Trust

Private lenders may:

• Ask for updates every few days

• Show up at the property

• Call you mid-day about “gut feelings”

• Panic when the market dips

Hard money lenders rarely do any of that. They:

• Inspect once at closing

• Do a draw inspection if rehab is funded in stages

• Assume you're a pro unless you default

If you're experienced and want freedom to move fast, hard money can give you peace of mind. If you're newer and need flexibility, private money can be more forgiving.

Default Consequences

If you default on hard money:

• Expect legal action

• Your credit and reputation may take a hit

• They’ll likely foreclose and resell the property

If you default on private money:

• It depends. You may lose a friend or relationship

• You might be forgiven, or you might face unexpected legal issues

• If they didn’t use legal paperwork, things could get messy

Neither is good. But hard money is at least predictable.

Ideal Situations for Each

Use Hard Money When:

• You need to move fast

• The deal is solid, and you don’t want to waste time negotiating

• You want predictable terms

• You’ve done this many times and just want to close

• You have a high margin and can absorb the cost

Use Private Money When:

• You’re building relationships for long-term growth

• You need flexibility in timing or repayment

• You want to reduce the upfront cost

• You have access to people with money who trust you

• The deal isn’t bankable, but you know it’s a winner

Can You Combine Both?

Yes. Some flippers do hybrid deals, such as:

• Hard money loan for 80% of the purchase

• Private lender for the 20% down payment or rehab

Or:

• Use private money for the purchase

• Refinance later with hard money or a bank loan

You can also transition:

• Start with hard money while building credibility

• Over time, replace hard money with trusted private money

How to Find Private Money

Here are some practical ways:

• Talk to friends and family with idle cash or retirement accounts

• Attend local REIA (Real Estate Investment Association) meetups

• Post case studies on social media

• Partner with someone on your first deal to build credibility

• Offer secured notes with interest-only returns

• Use self-directed IRA investors

What matters most: your track record, transparency, and communication.

How to Build a Relationship With a Hard Money Lender

• Apply in advance (not when you’re desperate)

• Be clear and organized with your deals

• Communicate proactively

• Don’t hide bad news

• Close deals cleanly and on time

• Refer other investors

Once you’ve done 2–3 deals with a good lender, you can negotiate better rates, longer terms, or pre-approval.

Questions to Ask a Hard Money Lender

• What are your rates, points, and fees?

• Do you fund 100% of purchase + rehab?

• What’s your draw process?

• What’s your maximum LTV and ARV?

• How fast can you close?

• What’s your extension policy?

• What happens if I go late?

• Do you require a personal guarantee?

Questions to Ask a Private Lender

• What kind of return are you expecting?

• How hands-on do you want to be?

• Are you comfortable with a 6–12 month timeline?

• What legal documents do you prefer (note, deed of trust)?

• What would make you nervous about this deal?

This helps prevent surprises and builds mutual expectations.

Final Verdict: Which One Is Better?

The real answer is: it depends on the deal, and on you.

If you’re new and want help, private money might feel better.

If you’re experienced and want to move fast, hard money might be cleaner.

If you’re scaling a flipping business, you’ll likely need both.

The flippers who win consistently:

• Build a bench of private money lenders who trust them

• Maintain strong relationships with 1–2 reliable hard money lenders

• Understand how to structure deals using both

• Always have backup capital in case of delays

In Summary

Here’s a recap of the key differences:

Take Action

If you’re flipping houses, don’t just focus on finding deals. Focus on lining up capital.

Build both:

• Fast access to hard money (pre-approved lenders)

• Long-term private money partners

That way, no matter the deal size, timeline, or challenge, you’ve got the right financing tool for the job.

Want an edge? Create a one-pager for each deal, with clear ARV, rehab scope, timeline, and projected ROI. It makes you look professional, whether you’re emailing a hard money lender or texting your wealthy uncle.